I haven't posted in a while - I blame Vegas. My LV post will come. Promise.
I went out for coffee today with a woman I haven't seen in a few years. I reached out and contacted her a few weeks ago and we decided to grab a coffee. We shared what has been going on in the past few years for us both. I shared with her something that I hadn't told anyone (except for my mum) in a long time. Part of the reason I don't really hang out with her group of friends anymore is because I don't feel as though I belong. All of the group is married and/or has children. Last year on Facebook I watched as countless childhood friends uploaded pictures of their children and updated their relationship statuses to engaged or married.
Fast forward through our coffee chat and Bekah said something that I really needed to hear. "You DO belong, your story is just different." I've been thinking about that since I left her at 3 o clock. I KNOW I am supposed to get married and be a mum...just not yet. It doesn't always make it easier, but she is right. This is MY story, and my story is different. I DO belong, just as she does and just as everyone else does.
Thank-you for speaking the words that I needed to hear. I'm beyond blessed to have gone out for coffee with you today.
Awww Steph, I am so happy I got to meet you today! I've been asking God to allow me to share with someone who is going through similar pain that I am going through. I wanted to share some of what He has taught me through all this waiting with someone so I could know it wasn't all for nothing!
ReplyDeleteAnd the other thing is, I don't want someone else's story. I want my own story! You will have your own love story that will be unique for you, not any one else's and it will be great!!!
Don't ever feel ashamed of taking your own path, or "settling down" with someone. If and when it happens, it will. And if it doesn't, who cares?! So long as you're comfortable with you, and what you're doing, there's nothing wrong with it. Live you life, and never forget to smile, even when you don't feel like smiling.
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